...reading between the lines...

I have been thinking about my relationships lately, because it is October. October is Spring and time for new growth. With October and six yearly cycles being significant relationship reassessment times in my life.

So... What have I learnt? I have learnt that:

1. Love is visible, when the partners are able to read between each others spoken lines, to hear what is not being said, in the process of negotiating to understand the other's personal meanings.
2. It is only from a position of mutual caring, that each is able to support the other's vulnerability.
3. That to let go of the fear of losing personal power in the relationship, makes a significant relationship with strong foundations,
4. That trust is built when each has the best interests of the other, and the relationship at heart.
5. To take the time to listen and hear with ones' inner ear to what the other is saying, is an act of love.
6. To understand that anger is a defense when feeling vulnerable.
7. To want to understand what the anger is defending is respectful of self and the other.
8. To share that respect and understanding enables the relationship to grow.
9. To know that the above points make a significant relationship meaningful.
10. Most of all; that a meaningful relationship is a commitment to understand the meaning of love, with a commitment to work at that understanding.

And I was thinking this morning, how each piece of this learning required a relooking back into past with understanding, to gain new knowledge, it is only then that these Aha moments can happen.

All so easy to think about, but quite another to live with!!!